Tuesday, October 27, 2009
I invited two of my favorite bloggers/writers Patrice Grell Yursik of Afrobella.com and Deanna Sutton of Clutch Magazine to discuss their reaction to the movie and what Black women across the country are saying about Good Hair.
Click here to listen.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
In case you missed it: Click here for a download of the full interview.
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Sunday, August 16, 2009
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Ursula Burns is the first African American female CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Her journey started in the housing projects of the lower east side of New York and now the sky's the limit. Congrats Ms. Burns. We salute you!!! (Read More)
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Lamar and Ronnie Tyler, co-founders of Black and Married with Kids along with Lashanda Henry, founder of Black Moms Club have put together what promises to be an informative and powerful three day web conference dedicated to Black Families. Creating Conversations will explore three of the most important questions in the Black community. Do good Black fathers still exist? Are Black mothers as strong as everyone thinks? What is happening to our babies? I hope that you will take time out this weekend to log on to at least one of the discussions. To find out more about the web conference, download the podcast from Cocoa Mode Online. In the meantime, register for the Creating Conversations seminar NOW. Space is limited. I'll meet you there!
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Millions of American school children are being tortured everyday in classrooms, school yards and at bus stops by bullies, an issue that continues to be ignored by teachers, administrators and community leaders.
According to a report released by the National Youth Violence Research Center, nearly 30% of young people have been involved in bullying either as the victim, perpetrator or both. Although bullying can occur anytime between elementary school and high school it is most common between grades 5-9. As is often the case with many issues related to the socialization of our young people, bullying only becomes a topic worth discussion after something tragic occurs to bring it to the front of our collective consciousness. April 20, 2009 marked the 10th anniversary of the infamous Columbine Massacre, one of the deadliest school shootings in history. Experts and those close to the case contend that the killers were subjected to constant bullying by athletes and “popular kids”, creating a fertile ground for the anger and frustration that drove two high school boys to kill 12 and injure 23 others before committing suicide. Earlier this month , Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover an 11 boy from Springfield Mass hanged himself after repeatedly being teased and tormented in school. Just last week another young man, Jaheem Herrera from DeKalb Georgia hanged himself after being bullied by classmates. Although their reactions to the situation were extreme they are indicative of the pain and frustration that comes with being a victim of bullying, a pain that I know well, having been bullied by classmates throughout middle school . My bully’s preferred method of torture was name calling and public humiliation. My crime, being awkward and unattractive, which happens to be the most common reason for bullying among girls, but I was fortunate to be surrounded by teachers and counselors who cared enough about my emotional well-being to not only equip me with tools to handle the bullies but also to do what was necessary to protect me from harm by facilitating discussions with my aggressors and their parents. Had Carl or Jaheem’s teachers done the same perhaps they would still be here. According to Carl’s mother she had approached the school a number of times about her son being teased, in fact she was on her way to a meeting with school officials when she found her son’s body. Masika Bermudez, Jaheem Herrera’s mother , during a memorial service, urged parents and teachers to work together to combat bullying in schools. While I applaud these parents and the others who speak out against bullying I wonder why they’ve been left to do so on their own. Where are our community leaders on this issue, where are the marches, the rallies, the demands that our schools implement programs that educate children about the dangers of bullying and teach tolerance and acceptance of others no matter their race, gender or sexual orientation? Why are our leaders silent and why are we allowing them to be? Most importantly when will we begin to realize that all of the negativity that we experience in our society takes root during the important formative years? It should be no surprise that 60% of children who are categorized as bullies will have at least one criminal conviction by the age of 24. Victim or victimizer, in the end we all lose. There’s an old Ashanti wisdom that says ‘The ruin of a nation begins in the homes of its people”. Indeed.Special thanks to Jewel Woods and the Renaissance Male Project for the work their doing to combat bullying in schools. You can visit Jewel's blog here.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Also, if you're interested in learning more about last week's guest, Takeyah Young, of Core Connections Lifestyle, please visit her website.
The weekly podcast will be posted Friday after 7:00pm.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
There's an old Ashanti proverb that says, "the ruin of a nation begins in the homes of it's people". I interpret that to mean without strong families, there's no way we can build strong communities. It's high time that we stop trying to get over on each other and begin loving (or at the very least respecting) each other.
There were a few things that really stood out for me in this book. The first is from the chapter "Our Love Isn't Like Your Love" where Steve breaks down the three things men will do for the woman he loves. Profess, Provide and Protect. On the issue of providing, he writes:
Then there's the chapter,
Basically, know what you're worth and not just in monetary terms. If you're a woman who carries herself with dignity, you deserve a man with dignity. If you're an honest woman you deserve and honest man. If you demand respect, you'll get nothing less. If a drink and a Big Mac is all that it takes to get you in bed, guess what, that's all you'll get. To be fair, Harvey did make an excellent point about this during his recent appearance on Oprah, which was to be mindful that you don't require certain characteristics of a man that you don't possess.
I also love the chapter "The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets In To Deep". I think this is especially important for older (read: over 30) women who are looking for a relationship. Time is short, why waste it on someone who has no intention on giving you what you want. Again, just because he doesn 't want to get married doesn't make him a bad guy, it just means he's not the one for you. So after a few months ask:
What are your long term goals?
What are your views on relationships?
If you don't believe Steve, trust me, a REAL man will answer those questions (so long as you have enough decorum and finesses to not make him feel like he's being interrogated by the CIA). Here's the key, even if he's willing to answer you've got to listen with an open mind and a "third ear". If he's not speaking your language, move on. Know that "the one" for you is out there, but you make it hard for him to find you when you're spending all your time laid up underneath the guy who just wants to "kick it".
Anyhow, I think it's best I stop here, if I go any further I'm going to have to demand a check from Amistad books, but I will leave you with this:
Ladies (and gentleman) love and respect for ourselves and each other has to become a priority..not an option. We owe it to our families, communities, country and the world.
As Obama ans the scriptures said, "the time has come to set aside childish things."
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Once again, thank you to everyone who called in this morning to discuss today's topic. As we move into the weekend I hope that we spend some time thinking about what we can do to help the millions of women and men who are involved in abusive relationships. A great place to start is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Please feel free to continue the discussion in the comments section below.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Thursday, March 5, 2009
We're back in business!!!
In case you missed today's show or if you want to hear it again, the podcast is available for download on Cocoa Mode.com as well as itunes.
All of the links, including Tonya Ladipo's website can be found on the podcast page.
To read the Essence article on blended families, click here. Also, to check out the awesome article written about our friends Ronnie & Lamar Tyler of Black and Married with Kids, click here.
As always feel free to leave your comments below and don't forget to tune into Cocoa Mode in the Eagles Nest, every Thursday at 8:00am ET on XM Channel 169.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Thursday, February 19, 2009
In case you missed the show, check back for the podcast Sunday after 9:00pm.
In the meantime, take a listen to some of our previous shows here.
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Cocoa Om Yoga Presents:
Embrace: The Prelude
Tantric Yoga & Massage for Couples
6:30pm - 8:00pm
Joe's Movement Emporium
3309 Bunker Hill Road
Mt. Rainier, MD 20712
Join Shawna Renee as she introduces the fundamentals of Tantric Yoga and Massage. During the 90 minute workshop you'll learn how to achieve the 4 goals of Tantra.
1. Quiet the Mind
2. Release Stress
3. Energize the Body
4. Deepen the connection with yourself and your partner.
Cost: $45.00 per couple
Register for the event by email - firstname.lastname@example.org
Please dress comfortably. Bring a towel, blanket and yoga mat. (community mats are available)
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Here's a clip of Chris Rock talking about HAIR.
This week on Cocoa Mode in the Eagles Nest we'll talk to Ronnie and Lamar Tyler, authors of BlackandMarriedwithkids.com about the movie, plus we'll dish about the latest development in the" Michelle Obama should have worn a Black designer debate", kids and computers and the dangers of social networking. Finally, I'll open the lines for you to discuss the latest PETA ad that some television networks have called "too hot for tv" (kiddies close your eyes)
We'll also be taking your calls at 1-866-801-8255.
It's the Cocoa Mode Roundtable on Cocoa Mode in the Eagles Nest, Thursday at 8:00am ET.
Friday, January 16, 2009
Motherland is a passage, which sweeps the continent of Africa. W A bold empowering sophisticated story of Africa, which in progressive looks at Africa's past, present and future. Motherland is an epic and unprecedented entry into the canon of African-owned cinema, which charts the glory and majesty of the Motherland (Enat Hager). Motherland is a film that unapologetically calls for African unity, self-determination and the African rebirth.
I have a special place in my heart for both Ethiopia and Kenya, I can't wait to see Motherland on the big screen.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Here's a link to Mike McQuerry's suggestions for this weekend's inauguration events. Feel free to use the comments section below to promote your event. Also, I want to know if you're planning to take your children down to the official swearing in on Capitol Hill.
EDIT: I just received this link from a listener who confirmed that strollers will be allowed on the Mall in the un-ticketed areas. HALLELUJAH!!
"Backpacks and strollers will be permitted in the unticketed sections of the National Mall west of Fourth Street, but they are being strongly discouraged. The restriction on those items, along with thermoses, coolers, umbrellas and laser pointers, applies in ticketed parade-route and swearing-in areas and at the balls. In ticketed areas, cameras are permitted but tripods are not. Don't bring posters or placards bigger than 18 inches square." (Thanks Latoya!)
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Plus I'll let you know what I think about Ann Coulter's comments about single mothers. If you missed it, check out the video of her appearance on The View. I'd love to know what you think. Call me tomorrow at 8:00am ET to talk about this and more! 1-866-801-TALK (8255.)
Monday, January 5, 2009
2008 is over and the Year of Change is upon us. I trust you had a wonderful holiday season and I look forward to catching up with you this Thursday, January 8th at 8:00am on Cocoa Mode in the Eagles Nest. In the meantime, I leave you with this awesome video clip I snagged from What About Our Daughters. My prayer is that every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and guardian become so unashamedly involved in our children's lives.